Last week, I traveled with my husband for his work and left the kids at home. This is a rare event. Only one other time have I joined him for an entire work trip, and even then, I took the kids. So why wouldn’t I want to regularly be the Mrs. and travel? I pondered this question and have derived three reasons.
1. I am a busy physician. As you know from following me on Twitter, I’m all over the place. Most of my days start at 5 a.m. with multitasking between clinical office, surgery and meetings. I also travel once or twice a month either for national board responsibilities or for giving talks to professionals and the public.
2. We are an active family. What can I say? I like being with my kids. The best part of my day is family dinner. Each family member goes over his or her day, and we update the family calendar. We review school project deadlines, talk about after school activities or we just talk. For fun, we sometimes watch reality TV like Survivor and American Idol. I just miss their chaos while I’m away.
3. Being the Mrs. isn’t always my priority. And I’m realizing I need to be better at this. I am my own evolution and am now more comfortable with simply being the Mrs. I no longer feel the need to define myself. In the past, I favored being introduced as Dr. von Gruenigen. In social settings, I now favor the Mrs.
I am not the same woman I was a few years ago. My priorities and life are in constant change and that’s OK. I am enough.
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